Question about moving back from Los Angeles

trueokie · 3 days

I lived in and round LA for 3 1/2 years. I hate California, I think it is the asshole of the universe. It is the worst place in the world. (I'm pretty liberal so it has nothing to do with that) But, you're in luck. I LOVE Oklahoma but do hate most of the people here too. So, as far as hating goes you're covered on both ends.

Also, if you're not the hating type then my opinion doesn't matter.

Hamster536 · 3 days

Aww hahaha. That's funny. Youtube is amazing. I can only imagine what it must be like for him. My son can do just about anything on his iPad. It shocks people that he knows how to pinch and spread his fingers on different apps and pictures. When he's 69 I wonder what his grand kids will be doing that he has to catch up with.

Hamster536 · 4 days

Holy cow, your dad's rockstar. Keep on truckin though, you seem to be doing great. I hope my family can get it together and face the facts. I know it's a hard pill to swallow but if they just came to terms with it we'd all be happier. Good luck with everything!

Hamster536 · 5 days

I thought my 4 year old was big! :) He's so cute in the picture too. You're really lucky your dad is there to support you. I can't help but be happy for you on that. My dad still doesn't believe that my son is autistic and my sister agrees with him. Don't let those little brats get to ya. That's just what they are used to seeing at home. Mom and dad probably call each other "retard" or "stupid". They just don't know any better. :/

lifeinsector4 · 11 days

As a mom it is hard when things can't go the way I want them to be. I hate it when I can't go out with my son for my birthday or for Mother's Day. I had an awful experience last year that I posted about here. You're wife seems like she is trying to be sweet because she insists that she isn't upset. Maybe you could take her out without your daughter. Sometimes a little alone time with you're husband can help a lot. I'm sorry things didn't go as planned.

busymonster · 11 days

My son is in the middle of the autism spectrum and we usually talk about it in front of him because I don't want him to ever feel shame for being different. This one time my apartment complex was doing fire alarm checks. We have regular smoke alarms and the red unit on the wall that beeps and flashes. Well, they said they were going to do it in an hour from when I asked and ended up doing it 15 minutes later. I had planned on leaving the building so he wouldn't be bothered.

Anyways, the alarm goes off and he completely stiffens up. He couldn't walk or talk or do anything. He couldn't even cover his ears. I picked him up and ran outside and stood him up so he could look at my face while I spoke to him and calmed I'm down. He relaxed and then the guys doing the tests came over to see if we were okay. I told them he didn't like loud noises. I didn't have to mention he was autistic and I didn't even think to. Later my boyfriend told me he thought it was really good I didn't say anything about him being on the spectrum. I don't want that following him like a shadow. If it's relavant I mention it but when it doesn't matter I don't hang it over his head.

I hope that gives you some perspective. I definitely think he should know why he is different but I don't want it to be the explanation for everything in his life.

Gurn-Blanston · 12 days

I guess we can consider ourselves progressives. I don' really know though, I'm just patting myself on the back. :)

Gurn-Blanston · 14 days

I understand the desperation too. I wish it were that easy for these families. Give your kid a shock and he no longer hurts himself.

But I don't see how that really helps. Perhaps I'm ignorant to it but honestly, shocking special needs kids to alter behavior isn't far off from lobotomizing someone. I mean really, let's subject innocent people who cannot help their psychological situation to extremely disturbing "medical" practices. Electro shock therapy was going on in insane asylums at the same time as lobotomies. And we all know that there was a point in time that autistic children were being committed because the family doctor didn't know how to help. This is no different to me.

Imagine the parents of autistic children 50 years from now finding out this was how some parents tried to help their children. It would be how it is now for us to see how doctors lobotomized people.

Stepak2 · 16 days

Instructors get discounts on the outfits. If you know an instructor ask them if they can buy you one.

Gurn-Blanston · 16 days

Okay, I guess we just don't see eye to eye on this subject. I would never use electrical shocks to change my son's behavior no matter how dangerous he was to himself. I wouldn't do that. I would put him in therapy or counseling. I would make sure he was never around anything he could hurt himself on. Banging his head on the wall because of his autism has never led me to the conclusion that I should shock the hell out him. I don't care if it's for two seconds. It's inhumane.

Gurn-Blanston · 16 days

Really. I would think that parents giving permission to teachers to electrically shock their children make them more at fault than the teachers. I don't care if the parents were told it would only be done in moderation. What kind of sick FUCK sends their special needs kid to a school that does that? Would you do that?

Gurn-Blanston · 16 days

Perhaps you would think it was torture if you were shocked repeatedly throughout the day for something you couldn't help. Like stimming.

Gurn-Blanston · 16 days

You know, after reading the wiki page I realized that the parents knew about the shock torture when they enrolled their kids there. They knew that's how they treated the kids and they let it happen. The parents are at fault more than anyone else.

Gurn-Blanston · 17 days

Okay, excuse me but WHAT THE FUCKING FUCK? Is this legitimate? How can this be legal? I'm really confused by this whole thing. Has anyone else heard of this before?

Edit: So I guess it is legit. wiki

ThatKevinSmith · 17 days

Try that with graham crackers. Make it a sandwich and your mouth will love you forever.

Ashley_T · 22 days

Have you tried any online support communities? I googled cancer support and I got a few like these:

livestrong.org

cancersupportcommunity.org

cancercare.org

I hope this helps. It seems like you don't have a lot of support so maybe one of these sites could help you or maybe you could find a meeting in your area. You can always post here for guidance on how to deal with your autism or just for support. It's so important.

internet hugs

autismdad123 · 22 days

I've wished the exact same thing on rude people in public too. Don't feel guilty for too long. My son is only four and it's hard when other kids his age notice there's something different. I'm happy you got it out on here though. I've vented before and it made me feel better to have people understand exactly what I'm going through. You and your wife and son are all ROCKSTARS. I remind myself and my son of that everyday. We are fucking rockstars.

pegothejerk · 24 days

Well, I've only ever parked at Remington Park if I'm going to the zoo. That's a long walk with a 4 year old and a cooler with no wheels.

Also, I've never been inside Remington Park. Maybe I should.

pegothejerk · 24 days

Yeah, I won't get a good grip on my car door and it ends up nearly banging into the car next to me. I get so anxious on days like today. I'm going to ruin someone's paint job if I'm not careful.

pegothejerk · 24 days

This is funny, how did the lines not break?

toastthemost · 1 month

We as a society have finally reached the point where our obituaries have us doing a duck face. This was hilarious though.

FinallyNormal · 1 month

Don't feel like less of a woman because you can't breastfeed. When I had my son I couldn't produce milk. It happens to some of us so don't feel so alone. Plenty of woman start off with formula. :)

Nuzzums · 1 month

It's really interesting to hear your side of living with someone who has ASD. My son just turned 4 and he is moderately autistic. I want more kids but I fear his meltdowns and issues may affect them so negatively that they would be truly unhappy. Kudos to your parents for raising such an understanding kid.

thatdbeprettyawesum · 1 month

I was given very good advice from his teacher to include different packages. Something like a starter kit and then several smaller kits that are only about 10 dollars or so. Something like 20 pictures in each smaller kit and the big one has 160 or so. I am trying to make it cheap but it's proving to be difficult. :/

Thanks for the input though. I wanted more views from the professionals who work with kids. :)

mercism · 1 month

I did that for a little bit. I would write down anything that happened before my son had a meltdown and it became evident that he has an issue with the sound of rushing water. The kitchen sink, the washing machine, the bath tub. You name it. So once I figured out what was bothering him so much I was able to calm him down faster and show him that we could have fun with water. He takes a shower everyday instead of a bath now because it sounds different to him. Hope that helps. I just made a timeline so to speak and noticed a pattern.

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