Oh wow, people actually wana here my story. Well here it goes: Well here I was a 21 yo guy, and up until last semester I was like a lot of you guys I guess. I wasn't very confident with the women. I mean like I had a couple of girl friends- but none I was really interested in or were interested in me or anything. Long story short, yea I was a very innocent in that I never kissed or done anything.

Anyways I finally did meet a girl, through a mutual friend. It just sort of happened. In the beginning it was wonderful. I mean she was like pretty and smart and everything. I really liked her and I could tell she liked me a lot too. It was like way too good to be true.

But I guess looking back there were some tell-tale signs that I should not have involved myself with this person.. She had just recently gotten out of a relationship. I know that should have sent up some red-flags right away. But I got caught up in it. I really did like her. And I had never done the whole dating thing before. For a while everything was going so well, like I really thought that I would enter into a relationship with her- and I guess I got caught up in that idea.

I am not sure where it all went wrong. Quite honestly I think I had the best of intentions the whole time, but at the same time I had no idea what I was doing. I think she interpreted me as being too clingy. She thought that I was being too “possessive” (was the word she used). Idk like any time I would mention the word “relationship” she would sort of back off. She was just so afraid of that word….

In my mind this was the natural progression of things. You meet a person, you like them and they like you, and then you start dating them. After you have dated them for a while, you are supposed to ask them out “officially“. Idk that is what I thought anyways, but what did I know ?

Anyways though I should have realized right then and there that her intentions and my intentions were not the same. I should have realized that this was not the right person for me. I should have ended things right then and there, before I got even more emotionally attached to this person. But I let myself continue to be involved with her, telling myself that eventually things would work itself out.

Obviously it didn’t. Long story short, she ended up hurting me more than anyone else ever has. She ended up getting back together with her ex, and we are pretty much not on speaking terms anymore. So I am taking this for what it is. This was a learning experience- I learned a lot from this whole experience. I felt how good it can feel to be with someone. I also felt how heartless and hurtful a woman can be. Unless you experience this joy and hurt for yourself, I guess you wont understand why it is better off to be alone than to be with the wrong person.

Hopefully I will not repeat these same mistakes again. However keep your chin up guys, I guarantee you too will find someone. Just don’t be in a rush. It is better to be alone than to be with the wrong person. To find the right person though, I guess you have to go through a lot of wrong people first.