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  • Two-Year Club

Three years ago I was raped at a party. AMAA by SpeedOfDarkin IAmA

[–]SpeedOfDark[S] 5 points6 points ago

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My real friends said they just saw two people on the couch and didn't want to be rude. There were other people that called me a slut or a whore. A lot of people would just look away and avoid me when I happened to be out in public.

Three years ago I was raped at a party. AMAA by SpeedOfDarkin IAmA

[–]SpeedOfDark[S] 27 points28 points ago*

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I haven't had sex since. I haven't found a guy who I can trust enough to give myself to.

My views on abortion haven't changed. I see abortion as ending a life and I don't think people have the right to decide when another person's life should end.

Three years ago I was raped at a party. AMAA by SpeedOfDarkin IAmA

[–]SpeedOfDark[S] 10 points11 points ago

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The gossip was things I heard from people around town. I would get text messages asking me about or or just telling me what I did wrong.

Three years ago I was raped at a party. AMAA by SpeedOfDarkin IAmA

[–]SpeedOfDark[S] 22 points23 points ago

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I love my son very much. They way he was conceived doesn't change how much I love him.

He will ask one day and I'll have to explain it. I don't think that day will be here for a while.

Three years ago I was raped at a party. AMAA by SpeedOfDarkin IAmA

[–]SpeedOfDark[S] 7 points8 points ago

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I had a lapse in judgment. Unfortunately, my lapse in judgment had horrible consequences. I don't drink anymore.

Three years ago I was raped at a party. AMAA by SpeedOfDarkin IAmA

[–]SpeedOfDark[S] 2 points3 points ago

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I'm not involved in any kind of activism. I'm busy enough as it is.

Three years ago I was raped at a party. AMAA by SpeedOfDarkin IAmA

[–]SpeedOfDark[S] 8 points9 points ago

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I answered the boyfriend question here. He wasn't at the party.

I don't worry that my son has genes of a rapists. I will teach him to respect people and I hope he'll follow a good path in life.

Three years ago I was raped at a party. AMAA by SpeedOfDarkin IAmA

[–]SpeedOfDark[S] 11 points12 points ago

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I'm sorry that happened. I went through the same mindset where I blamed myself for what happened. It didn't make it any easier when others blamed me as well. I hope she saw a therapist.

Three years ago I was raped at a party. AMAA by SpeedOfDarkin IAmA

[–]SpeedOfDark[S] 4 points5 points ago

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No and no.

Three years ago I was raped at a party. AMAA by SpeedOfDarkin IAmA

[–]SpeedOfDark[S] 2 points3 points ago

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No. I'm told that he can go through the court to try to get i, but he hasn't tried to yet.

Three years ago I was raped at a party. AMAA by SpeedOfDarkin IAmA

[–]SpeedOfDark[S] 2 points3 points ago

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My boyfriend was with his family instead of at a party that night.

I never talked to the guy personally. He gave a statement in court when he plead guilty. He didn't say why he did it other than that it was a mistake and he won't do it again.

Three years ago I was raped at a party. AMAA by SpeedOfDarkin IAmA

[–]SpeedOfDark[S] 4 points5 points ago

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My boyfriend tried to be supportive. He isn't a violent guy so beating somebody up was never an option. I went through a period of time where I didn't want to get out of bed, much less me social with my boyfriend. It put a real strain on our relationship and we broke up.

Three years ago I was raped at a party. AMAA by SpeedOfDarkin IAmA

[–]SpeedOfDark[S] 4 points5 points ago

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I will have to eventually. I don't think that conversation will happen for a few more years.

Three years ago I was raped at a party. AMAA by SpeedOfDarkin IAmA

[–]SpeedOfDark[S] 2 points3 points ago

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It's not out of the ordinary for people to have sex at parties. There weren't any adults around.

Three years ago I was raped at a party. AMAA by SpeedOfDarkin IAmA

[–]SpeedOfDark[S] 5 points6 points ago

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I don't think it's certain, but I have a big family and I know we can provide for him.

Three years ago I was raped at a party. AMAA by SpeedOfDarkin IAmA

[–]SpeedOfDark[S] 5 points6 points ago

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I'm not interested in personal revenge. It was a horrible thing and I don't want to go through the court system again if it's unnecessary.

Three years ago I was raped at a party. AMAA by SpeedOfDarkin IAmA

[–]SpeedOfDark[S] 3 points4 points ago

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Nobody else was charged with anything.

Three years ago I was raped at a party. AMAA by SpeedOfDarkin IAmA

[–]SpeedOfDark[S] 5 points6 points ago

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The gossip was around people my age in my town.

Three years ago I was raped at a party. AMAA by SpeedOfDarkin IAmA

[–]SpeedOfDark[S] 45 points46 points ago

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I don't know. I wish I had a good answer to that myself. I wish somebody would have stopped him. I wish it didn't take a formal investigation to get the entire story. I wish I did a lot of things different that night.

Three years ago I was raped at a party. AMAA by SpeedOfDarkin IAmA

[–]SpeedOfDark[S] 11 points12 points ago

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I was told that he could go through the court to get visitation, but he hasn't done anything yet.

Three years ago I was raped at a party. AMAA by SpeedOfDarkin IAmA

[–]SpeedOfDark[S] 14 points15 points ago

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When I look at my sons face, all I see is a ball of beauty and joy. He doesn't remind me of anything negative.

Three years ago I was raped at a party. AMAA by SpeedOfDarkin IAmA

[–]SpeedOfDark[S] 13 points14 points ago

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I'm good. I still have days where I don't feel like doing anything, but I'm so much better than I was three years ago.

Motherhood is both hard and rewarding. I have a great support system to help me through it.

Three years ago I was raped at a party. AMAA by SpeedOfDarkin IAmA

[–]SpeedOfDark[S] 8 points9 points ago*

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I'm not going to press civil charges. I don't feel like going through the whole court ordeal again.

Three years ago I was raped at a party. AMAA by SpeedOfDarkin IAmA

[–]SpeedOfDark[S] 38 points39 points ago

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My church was very supportive. They gave us baby clothes, food, and did other things to make me feel comfortable.

I didn't go public on purpose, but it was in the newspaper. There was a lot of gossip about me being a whore, a drunk, and a poor example to the community.

Three years ago I was raped at a party. AMAA by SpeedOfDarkin IAmA

[–]SpeedOfDark[S] 10 points11 points ago

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I'm told that he will be allowed to try to get visitation because as a father, he has rights. He hasn't attempted to do anything yet. If it happens, I'm not sure what I would do.

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