[TOMT] [movie] Quote: "Time-travel humour"

SatelliteJane · 4 days

YES! Thank you, I must have confused it with Dr Who or something. Thank you!

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facebookhatingoldguy · 1 month

Of course rape is about sex. A person uses his/her sexuality to attack someone else's sexuality. It's a sexual trauma. For many victims, having sex after a rape is very problematic.

I think ppl want to make the distinction because they want to protect themselves from unpleasant facts. I think it's damaging because it ignores the many date rapes, where one person thought it was sex, and the other thought it was rape. "I didn't rape you, we had sex" as if one totally excludes the other. It also perpetuates the myth that rape is a stranger attacking a lonely woman in a park at night, and that rapists are powerhungry maniacs so a person who is not a powerhungry maniac can more easily deny being a rapist.

Some rapes are about power, or hate and degredation, but I think most are about failed communication, and more or less willful ignorance of the partner's "no". I only have one example, but a guy friend in high school and I were discussing bad sex, and his example was when the girl changes her mind once they've started and then cries afterwards. To him, it was crappy sex, I doubt she feels the same. He told me the story, honestly believing it was just bad sex. (I stopped hanging out with him after that, the last thing I heard, he was married and working as a translator. Perfectly normal, average person, but a rapist nonetheless)

edit: spelling

Ikanspell · 1 month

Can we be sure that's fish?

NoneCleavage · 1 month

Jebus Christ, dude!!! Why are you still with him?!

What kind of a tool says things like that? Seriously, wtf is wrong with him? He's in his mid 30ies and hasn't learned how to behave like a normal human being? This isn't a minor thing, this is like not realising you're not supposed to blow your nose in the curtains. It's not normal!!!

mildly_interesting · 1 month

Yes, but can you live up to it?

catylisic · 1 month

Those who identify as women, also feel like women and do their best to look, act and live like women. At least if they've come as far as using the women's restroom. There is a little bit more to being trans than just saying "I'm a woman" one day, but I think you already know that and are deliberately being obtuse to piss ppl off.

that_other_guy_ · 1 month

I'm pretty sure the biblical Jesus would have walked in Pride-parades and been stongly in favour of health care-reform. I have never understood how some american politicians can combine some of their political views with the biblical christ who was pretty clear on his views of love, greed, acceptance and not judging those who are different

SatelliteJane · 1 month

I have no idea how it started, me and my Tolkien-reading friends did it when we were in our 20s and discovering the joys of feminist theory, and that was, sadly, almost 15 years ago. That was before blogspot, tumblr etc. but I'm sure you can find examples there. Chrome even has an app that changes the pronouns on webpages. Hmph! In my days, you had to do it by HAND, dagnabbit!

SatelliteJane · 1 month

It's a thing lotr geeks do. Try replacing some of the male pronouns in LotR with female ones, it adds an entire new dimension to the books. Especially the Sam Frodo scenes towards the end. But also Legolas and Gimli are shamelessly flirting while they're killing orcs.

throwaway2921 · 2 months

You are being abused.

Your boyfriend has much bigger problems than you can fix, and they are not your fault. Whatever made him like this happened a long time before you met him. It's not about you, he would treat any girlfriend like this.

I'm sure he can be sweet and caring at times, and I believe you stay with him because you think that he can be like that all the time, and that the abusive stuff is an exception and not "who he really is". I'm sorry, but that is not true. He IS abusive, that IS a part of him. And because it's a part of HIM, it's not about you. He will be angry no matter what you do, and if he was with someone else, he would be angry at them. It's not the world around him that needs fixing, it's him. He has the problem, not everyone and everything else. Problems like these can be fixed, but his are so severe, he needs professional help from someone with training and experience. There are counsellors that specialize in these type of problems, but the biggest obstacle is usually getting the person to admit that the problem lies with them, not everyone else. Counselling could help him deal with the anger, and be that sweet, considerate person he can be, but he has to seek out help.

Imagine this: a close friend or a sister told you that her boyfriend was treating her like this. What would you tell her?

EDIT: You're not alone and there are a lot of ppl who understand what you're going through. You have probably focused on the replies that are critical and shame you for staying, but if you read through the replies again, you will see that a lot of other women have gone through the same thing and know where you're coming from. Your college's health services probably has a program for those in abusive relationships, or work with one since this is unfortunately not uncommon, especially at your age. If you contact them, they will NOT be like the replies in this thread that blame you and shame you for staying with him, they will NOT make you feel bad. They WILL understand why you don't want to leave him, however, they will also encourage you to do it anyway or get individual and couples therapy.

Some abusers change, but it's a lot of work, and they have to really want it. If he loves you, if he wants to change, he should get help from a professional therapists that can help him understand his behaviour, what it does to you and teach him how to not get angry and abusive.

kenny9292 · 2 months

I don't know if he has said it, but plenty of his followers believe that women can't get pregnant from rape. They have lots of WTF-y explanations why it's not possible for women to become pregnant from rape. Sickening.

Bobertica1 · 2 months

In the norse languages it's a consonant, or, if you want to be precise, a palatal approximant. However, if you haven't learned how to pronounce certain sounds or combinations of sounds as a kid, fj can be tricky and some will pronounce it as a vowel or close front rounded vowel/high front rounded vowel

PRNDL · 2 months

Only if you went out for brunch afterwards

laurenv85 · 2 months

I have hair down to my butt-crack with very few split ends. It's very straight, mousy brown although I dye it red.

I dye my hair about once a month and wash it with shampoo maybe twice between dyes and then I only put shampoo on my scalp. The rest of the hair will get shampoo anyway when I rinse it and I always use a deep conditioner or a hair mask after shampooing. I rinse my hair with conditioner about once a week and rinse it with water after excercise. I used to wash it every day, it was hell on my hair and scalp. I never use any hot curlers, straighters or similar on my hair, if I want curls I sleep with my hair in a bun on the top of my head. In the winter, I put on a hat when I leave the gym.

The most important thing, that everyone else has already mentioned, it to trim the ends. My hair will knot and get tangled more easily if I don't trim it, and that leads to coarse and split ends.

Also, get a good hairbrush. And don't EVER pull on your hair if it's tangled. Never.EVER! Pulling damages the hair, will make it coarse, which leads to more knots and tangles and pretty soon your hair is a mess.

Finally, when I'm bored, I go through my hair strand by strand and cut off any ends that are are split or damaged. My friend with hair as long as mine is lucky, she has two nieces that love to do this for her, I have to do it myself

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