Keep in mind that whatever bad opinion of cannabis smokers you have is based on the reality of its prohibition. Those smokers who want maximize their chances of staying out of trouble remain behind closed doors.

If cannabis was regulated like alcohol and you could enjoy it in public, those previously self induced shut-ins would have a chance to get out. They could engage in the outwardly productive activities that are more socially acceptable without incident.

As it stands, cannabis users tend to gravitate towards inwardly productive or creative outlets. This already puts them on the fringe of American society except perhaps in the larger urban areas.

A rigidified authoritarian power structure, such as a church and by extension your family will never accept someone like this girl. This is not necessarily because she uses cannabis. This is because they know, at least subconsciously, that she will not submit to their localized social game rules. Though they will try to discredit her; the reality is that she represents a threat to their social control mechanisms.

You might not understand this completely until you remove yourself from that environment long enough to relax some of those conditioned reflexes. You may not even realize that your current environment is designed to make you operate below the level of reason by way of conditioned reflexes and faith.

Listen to the exact words your parents and other adults use. I'm willing to bet that most of their language is made up of strict black and white, either/or assertions. The language you use effects your perception and therefore your behavior. They make an evaluation based on their social conditioning, project that evaluation outward and call it reality. They will never realize that what they call reality is really just their own personal evaluations. These evaluations only really apply to their own nervous system, and those around them who have been conditioned to react to the same set of game rules.

It's really easy to overlook with a large community like a church. Everyone's assertions and personal evaluations are more or less homgenous relative to that social group. They will have successfully managed to filter out or demonize all of the conflicting signals from the outside world. Without sufficient perspective it is easy to forget that a social group's interpretation of the external world is just that... an interpretation. It is applicable only for that group and is functionally meaningless outside of that group.

This is, I hope, what you will come to personally experience if you engage in cannabis use...

That reality is plural and mutable.

That our interactions are really negotiations at the borders of our accumulated world views and that when it comes to everyone's interpretation of the outside world everyone is still guessing.

Scenario universe is non-simultaneously apprehended.

No one has the complete truth about everything. Anyone who claims to know, or possesses a book that claims to know the complete truth about everything is directly contradicting all of the knowledge of the 20th century.

Oh sorry... wrong meeting. That's tomorrow night at the docks. What were we talking about?

Oh right... girls you like who smoke pot. There's only one thing to do:

Thelemic, Sufi and Hindu ritual sex magic. Now that's a Saturday night.