Girls/women of Reddit. Has "the Pill" affected you in any noticeable way regarding attraction to men?

AnonyMRS · 3 months

The first pill I was on almost completely diminished my libido...and I absolutely hated it. I was still sinfully attracted to my husband, but never had the oomph to have sex. Told my doctor, and he gave me a different kind of pill. I then noticed I was MORE attracted to my husband, and wanted sex more than before I was on the pill at all. It's a win/win for the both of us.

EDIT: Moral of the story: tell your doctor if the pull is decreasing your sex drive. There are HUNDREDS of variations of the pill, and one of them will work for you :)

blueishflavour · 3 months

This is definitely one of those everyone has a different experience. I've been on two different pills. One was fine, but destroyed my sex drive. The other made me cry at everything but horny as hell. And no one likes the sexy times with tears.

l3tigre · 3 months

I ended a three year relationship after getting off the pill after more than 14 years on. I would say it definitely was a factor.

deadundead · 3 months

I stopped being attracted to anybody and thought of sex as a 'heheh, people do that' sort of thing. Complete loss of drive or intuition. Sucked.

oohitsalady · 3 months

I'm a lesbian, but used to be on a low dose version of the pill for medical reasons. That said, around my time of the month, I would want to get penetrated something fierce. My sex drive would go apeshit insane and I would crave rough sex. I've been off it for a few years now and all is well.

baglebite88 · 3 months

My sex drive actually went up when I am on the pill. It increased my attraction for my SO, and when one guy who I had a many year infatuation from middle school all the way into adulthood decided he finally wanted me even though we were both already in relationships, I told him I wasn't interested and to hit the road.

Nervebible · 3 months

It makes me noticeably more attracted to men who know how to use a rototiller.

awesome-allbeard · 3 months

I don't know if her interests in men changed, but an ex GF of mine started taking them and her boobs got HUGE. Just thought it was a side effect worth mentioning.

nerdscallmegeek · 3 months

I've been on hormonal birth control for so long that I really have no idea if my attraction to the type of man I am has anything to do with it.

Doxiedad · 3 months

My wife suffered a serious loss of libido while on the pill. Not sure if it can be avoided. The pill tricks their body to think theyre pregnant so sex drive isn't needed.

Kinda a catch 22.

ChatGarou · 3 months

Depo has completely killed all sex drive. I hate it, but it's the most reliable method I can afford.

jamdrumsspace · 3 months

Not a woman but my woman was on the patch and we were great. Switched to the pill for health\insurance reasons and we haven't had sex in a long....long time. I'm going to go cry now.

Onironaute · 3 months

I seem to have stopped liking utter douches and am now attracted to decent human beings instead. This could also just coincide with the age on which I started taking the pill and grew a fucking brain (16).

My sex drive hasn't changed notably either way.

lourfaun · 3 months

My sex drive didn't decrease at all. In fact, it increased while on the pill. As for attraction to men, no I don't think it has. My type had always been nerdy computer guys.

Neurotikitty · 3 months

Nope. I started dating/having sex with my boyfriend before I got on the pill. Once I was on it, I was still equally attracted to him. 4 years later we are just fine and still have mind blowing sex.

vegjosie11 · 3 months

I did have a slight decrease in libido. But it wasn't a huge problem.

I had to get off though because I was getting daily headaches and a couple of migraines a month. Plus I gained weight. Bigger boobs are awesome, but, at least in my case, I couldn't get the bigger boobs without getting the bigger waistline.

tactilevoice · 3 months

The pill was horrible for me. I had no sex drive and ended up depressed and miserable. It was so bad that after I broke up with my bf (unrelated problem, he was an ass) I was almost scared to go back on it for my new boyfriend. Apparently reactions are common with many of my friends although some of their problems were different and had way more emotional effects.

BUT! Nuva ring has given me no side effects whatsoever and most of my friends have switched. Stupid expensive though.

lookylieu · 3 months

Maybe it's because I use a really low level of hormones, but no, not at all. The men I was attracted to off the pill are pretty much the same as the ones I'm attracted to on the pill. My sex drive is pretty much the same too....maybe a little more active since I don't have to worry about getting knocked up as easily. Otherwise: Lost weight, gained a bit of boobs, skin cleared up, huzzah.

I know a lot of women don't want to go on the pill because they don't want to fuck up their hormones, but in this day and age, your hormones have pretty much been messed up since you were born- at least in the USA. There's so much pumped into our meat and dairy that there's really few ways to avoid it all.

mustard_tits · 3 months

i'm not as horny as often. and when i do get horny, the smallest thing can turn it off. it's so sad. :l

howdoIun-baby · 3 months

This is a bit awkward, but I want to really have some straight answers. Where should I begin to look for BC? I have very wild hormones, and would probably be best off talking to a doctor about the options. Should I go to Planned Parenthood, an OB, or a regular doctor?

I'm not 12, by the way. I'm just a 22-year-old who was a socially awkward single penguin all her life. I have insurance, a car, a job and money, and a dick-wielder who I love very dearly.

[deleted] · 3 months

IUD IUD IUD IUD! I CANNOT SCREAM THIS LOUD ENOUGH!!

it isnt totally "problem free" (random cramping the first few months, reluctant doctors in some cases, pricing if you dont have insurance) but all those PALE in comparison to TEN YEARS(copper) of the strongest protection against pregnancy short of having your tubes tied! as well as, if in that 10 years you do want to have a child, you can become pregnant that DAY if you were ovulating. its a natural pH reaction to the copper! exclamation points!

you DONT have to have a child first (its just recommended to decrease the already small risk of random expulsion) you DONT have to be on your period to have it inserted (you might have spotting, so they do it during menstruation for the convenience of you already being crampy and bleedy) it took less than 10 minutes of moderate uncomfortable cramp like pain, nothing a few brownie bites and 800mg of ibuprofen and some The Tudors didnt fix for me in a couple hours.

_karnage · 3 months

Lower sex drive...I got off that shit.

s0n1c800m · 3 months

Not the pill, but Nuvaring instead. Hormonal birth control, regardless. It has made me hornier, which I didn't think was humanly possible, and wetter.

When I'm not on it (had to go off for a few weeks recently), I notice my SO smells different, but still quite nice. I just notice his natural musk a little more (in a good way). I also seem to like sex a little less rough when I'm not on BC.

As to the type of man I'm attracted to, no, I haven't noticed a change. I do enjoy my own femininity more since I've been on the ring.

paradoxgirl44 · 3 months

I went on the pill a few months after dating my current boyfriend and, though I was already incredibly attracted to him, it definitely intensified, both emotionally and physically. My doctor said it would be the opposite, so I was genuinely surprised.

oneluckygal · 3 months

I have been on the pill for two and a half years. My boyfriend and I are very much in love, our sex drive is fabulous. The pill never really changed the way my body thinks or feels minus gaining a couple pounds but it didn't bother me at all. Though guys, remember there isn't one end all be all "pill" there are tons of different ones. I used to be on Try-Cyclin lo, that made me crazy, cry every other day or so, miserable, tired. SO I talked to my doctor and she upped my prescription to Tri-Cyclin. Works beautifully. No side affects, no problem. :)

GhostlyGirl · 3 months

Not really at all. It has affected my mood swings. But it doesn't affect how I view peole, including attractive men. It just affects how often I spontaneously burst into tears.

getsthejobdone · 3 months

I have no sex drive whatsoever now that I'm on BC. At this point, I feel like I could never have sex again and be totally fine with it. This is definitely my last month on the pill. I miss enjoying sex.

sarahb3th · 3 months

Loss of a sex drive is something I only suffered with when using the shot. I also gained weight (not just in my boobs) while on that. I've been on the pill and my sex drive is up, my weight is down, and beside the month of your hormones getting in sync with the pill, I've felt no crazy effects. Beware those hormones, man.

EDIT: I remember being on a different pill for a couple of months before I adjusted to a lower dosage and just feeling insane all of the time. If you have problems with your lady libido or anything else, just let your doctor know and they'll fix you right up :)

freda42 · 3 months

I wasn't on the pill when I got togethere with my boyfriend. Started taking it about 2 months into the relationship. Attraction levels haven't changed, he's still the hottest guy I know. Also, my sex drive didn't change. So all is good.

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littleladyme · 3 months

Well, research has concluded that the pill adjusts females' reception to certain pheromones, meaning that we basically go after guys who are not really evolutionarily conducive for us. Has to do with chromosomal immune system business- we're supposed to seek out those with different variations of immunity so that the offspring would therefore have a more "lucrative" (a better term escapes me right now) immune system.

That said, been on and off the pill for 7 years and I've always dug assholes. However, with my latest attempt with a pill I hadn't tried before, I originally was still going for sort of jerky dudes, but that's waning now and I've begun being interested in more caring/monogamous dudes. Might have to do with just personal growth though.

**edit: still as affectionate as always with each pill I've tried. My doses are very low, though. It is possible for a higher dose pill to cause hormonal changes that interact poorly with seratonin and dopamine/their receptors in the brain to cause crazy mood swings and change in sex drive/affection.

Sawcyy · 3 months

Been on it for 4 months, took a dive for a while and now that ive been on it for a while i feel it escalating and the need for primal rough stuff....sucks now because i got dumped 2 months ago aha.

pandahat · 3 months

I actually learned about it in school.

If I remember correctly, the pill is mainly progesterone. When a woman is pregnant, she has an increase in progesterone...this makes her (obviously) infertile. So, your body is almost stimulating pregnancy. This is why some women gain weight when going on the pill, or get emotional.

Studies have been done showing women have different mate preferences throughout the course of their menstrual cycle, preferring more masculine men when ovulating, and less masculine men when in less fertile stages.

[deleted] · 3 months

Why are you wanting to trust anecdotes over scientific studies? That's kinda backward.

Piggy_Piggy · 3 months

Sex drive is reduced but not completely gone. I also notice I am attracted to more masculine rugged looking men mid cycle (so ovulation time) and kinda feel a bit more maternal too? The sound of babies/children crying is musical rather than horribly irritating like the rest of the time.... Apparently that's a known fact though, well about the attraction to men thing, supposed to be that we want someone who 'appears' more virile at that time.

steramystilen · 3 months

The pill made my boyfriend more attractive to me, but it also made me not want to have sex anymore.

Granted, I think the hair-falling-out thing was the slightly bigger issue...

swabfalling · 3 months

Not a girl, but I can say my most recent ex became a lot more emotional, her boobs grew, her sexual appetite went down, and eventually she dumped me. So put another vote down for yes it effects.

Which sucks, because her boobs got bigger. Dammit I miss her.

Edit: just to add, prior to her use of the pill (which she went on because we were getting serious) things were getting serious, and she also would say things like "I dont know why I'm like this, I feel like a moody bitch". So I think that's a fair sign. Messed up her period cycle as well, to the point where we had a few "scares", because she'd be late, or early, or whatever.

Kind of wish she didn't go on it at this point.

Coal916 · 3 months

Yes! I have noticed that my taste in men (and women) changed when I went on the pill. I became more tolerant of men who had more feminine figures, something that I was most definitely not attracted to before. I'm not talking about his manner of dress, although that matters, I'm talking about his physical form. Emotionally I've also become more interested in guys who show their feelings more, which is something I didn't like before the pill. (Mostly because I didn't show my feelings as much before the pill, perhaps.) Also I went from an A to a solid B, almost C. I'm very happy with that.

britt_thehuman · 3 months

I've been on it for just over a year, and I am still very much so attracted to my boyfriend of almost 2 years, and my drive has not changed at all (which is pretty high to begin with). It might just be the brand of the pill, because each one is slightly different. Also depends on how the woman reacts to it as well.

GG_GG_GG_GG · 3 months

Been on pill for only a month (alesse), I don't see much of a change yet other then my boobs are a tad soar now and then. I hope they grow a lot! Also, my libido has seemed to increase, but I can't say for certain- it hasn't been long enough to say with certainty.

rationalbear · 3 months

I don't believe mine has. I've been on it for three, going on four years now, but I can't really give a definitive answer because at the time I started I was in high school and now I'm in college, so that's a huge variable right there, anyways. I can say that for me, the pill cleared my face of any acne that was there (never much to begin with), I went up a cup size (hell yeah), and generally seemed to have better moods.

oneluckygal · 3 months

Well my doctor switched me to Tri-Cyclin. It's just a higher dose. But believe it or not, completely evened me out. I do however suggest talking different options with your doctor. Hope this helps :)

fachsydachsy · 3 months

I was on depo (injection) for 6 months. Not only did I go batshit crazy (random emotional outbursts), but my libido simply disappeared. Now that I've been off of any sort of birth control for 2 years, I can hardly keep up with my libido's consistent beckons.

gunslinger_006 · 3 months

I've dated quite a few women for whom the pill had an adverse affect on their libido.

However, that is painting with a broad brush, since the affects are strongly affected by what pill, what dose, existing hormonal factors, etc....

clearlyclassy · 3 months

I was with my boyfriend for about five months before I got on the pill, and I didn't notice any difference in my attraction to him. However, I think women should be prepared that when they go on the pill, it could dampen your sex drive. It did for me. I'm just as interested in sex, but the sensations aren't as strong as they were before, which sucks a little. Still, not worth risking a baby over. Overall the pill is awesome.

[deleted] · 3 months

I can't be sure because I stopped the pill and got an IUD before meeting my last SO.....but it wouldn't surprise me. He definitely looked way different than anyone I had dated before. The first time I met him I thought he was really weird looking, it wasn't until after we hooked up the first time that I realized how much I wanted to bone him constantly. So it is definitely plausible.

Also my sex drive went WAY up. Fuck the pill.

Twatlinbolton · 3 months

Rather strangely, it made me only feel attracted to the guy I am with. I have lost complete interest in even checking out other guys.

jblue68 · 3 months

I was on the pill (different brands and estrogen levels) for 16 years and this is the first I've heard of it affecting libido.

wonderlandjunki · 3 months

I only get the deep freeze. Where I want no sex. Ever. Fuck that shit.

koreancracka · 3 months

Pill: hips got wider. no boob difference. IUD: hips stayed same size, boobs grew substantially. I'm 5'2, Asian, and have 32D boobs. And a booty.

When I was on the pill I was attracted to super dangerous boys and ended up dating some legitimately dangerous people (like two of my exes committed armed robbery).

I'm on the IUD now and am super attracted to my current boyfriend more than when I was on the pill (just appearance wise, strictly speaking). I've always loved him for who he is though, not what he is.

Rahien · 3 months

Yep. It changes how I think people smell. As in the pill makes me think my boyfriend has a bad smell as opposed to a neutral body smell.

locro · 3 months

Where...is...my...sex...drive....

SerinaLightning · 3 months

I'm on the pill, and I get massively horny during my period.

hedonismbot89 · 3 months

There's a lot of research about this in the past 20 years and the studies showed that this appears to be true. In the studies it looked at smell and was originally looking at MHC genes but the scientists noticed that women on the pill acted unexpectedly when compared with women not on the combined oral contraceptive (COCP). They redid the study looking at the pill specifically. The results showed women on the pill preferred men with dissimilar MHC genes while women on the pill preferred men with similar MHC genes. I have the link to the original journal articles for those who want it and can post it here when I get home.

TL;DR yes it does. Several impartial studies have been done showing it does. Only COCP has been looked at (that I know of) and not the progesterone only pill.

EDIT: here are the journal articles

MHC-Dependent Mate Preferences in Humans Claus Wedekind, Thomas Seebeck, Florence Bettens and Alexander J. Paepke Proceedings: Biological Sciences , Vol. 260, No. 1359 (Jun. 22, 1995), pp. 245-249

That one is the only one I can legally post but here is the Scientific American article about it. Happy reading.

misscastaway · 3 months

I don't notice any difference in my preference of men.

What I do notice is that once on pill I cry to movies or when I'm feeling very sad. If I'm off pill I cry very, very seldom.

roganaiyooo · 3 months

Not really, I went on it when I started dating my boyfriend, and now I find him just as attractive and don't really look at anyone else.

Only noticeable changes; bigger breasts, much more painful stomach cramps, and headaches

Flapjackdj · 3 months

To be honest, I really couldn't tell you. I started using the pill when I was 17 because after a few years of reasonable periods, my body decided to freak the fuck out on me without warning. 3-4 days became 10-14 days, once a month became once every 3 months for two weeks, or once every two weeks, etc. Cold sweats, numb arms/legs, fevers, nausea, no appetite, etc. I was in the middle of college and just couldn't deal with how it was affecting my ability to do even basic stuff, like walking a mile to my lecture in the morning. I've been using BC for almost ten years, now. Now I'm engaged, sexually active, etc., so the reasons I use it have changed.

I'm pretty horny, most of the time. Especially if I see/hear something that reminds me of sex and then I start thinking about it. My chest did grow one cup size a few months after I started the pill, but it could have been my body on its own, since I was a late bloomer and I grew again several years ago. As far as attraction, I have always liked men who are more masculine in appearance. I haven't noticed a drastic change since I was a teenager in that dept., with the only difference being some major personality overhaul, since I'm now much more adult-like and whatnot. But looks? Not really a difference. My girl friends have even joked with me about how when we meet a new group of men, I'm always after the manliest one of the bunch and my girl friend's tastes are too feminine for mine, at times. I don't know if it's because they like more feminine men, or if I am the outlier.

I'm also on a very low dose BC prescription. I was studying cancer bio at the time and I was very wary of additional hormones. I decided that BC was the lesser of the two evils, but I wanted something safe(r).

One thing I've noticed is that I get very sad about 3-5 days before my period. It's like clockwork. Something that would normally just make me sigh to myself will make me want to cry, instead. I ask myself "What is your problem!" and then I look at my pill case and it's all clear as day. I can't remember being mopey before the BC, but it was over ten years ago. Now, I don't even sweat it when I feel weepy, because unless someone died, it's probably the cycle. Once I figured out the cause, it was fine.

gtc737 · 3 months

Nope! It is important to remember that the pill, like any other medication, can have vastly different effects on different people. There have been studies that it can affect what kind of guy you're attracted to. And yes, a fair number of women find their libido lowered when on the pill. Personally, I've never had a problem with that at all.

MusMaximus · 3 months

I started taking the pill as a teenager, and was on it before I'd ever met the man I ended up marrying. When I stopped taking the pill (switched to an IUD) I completely lost any attraction I had for him. Which wasn't even much to begin with. I actually became repulsed by him. Divorce time wasn't too far off.

never going on the pill again. never want to date someone when under the influence of hormones, because it really can radically change your body.

liabobia · 3 months

Yep. Dated a string of feminine, pretty men while on the pill, and was constantly unhappy with their personalities (nothing wrong with femme guys, but it's not my type). The smell of men, in particular, made me sick. Went off the pill, sex drive skyrocketed and I gravitated towards masculine-types whose personalities I also loved, plus I regained my ladyboner for sweaty armpits and feet. I will never use the pill again.

snpcosmopolitan · 3 months

I've tried three different types of birth control, all of the low dose ones which are supposed to have the least side affects... all of them KILL my sex drive. Abstinence really is the best form of birth control haha. So, I gave up, and just use condoms. C'est la vie

snackburros · 3 months

My ex girlfriend got on the pill and then proceeded to cheat on me for 6 months with a shit ton of other guys while I was at school across the country.

Now I'm with another girl who is on the pill and she just has (a lot, and really kinky) sex with me, so yay at least in that respect.

EDIT: Oh yeah, my roommate went on the pill and stopped sleeping around. Then she got off it and is with someone different every night. This house is ridiculously loud at night.

allistercatly · 3 months

I don't think the pill changed my taste in men. However, the last pill I was on completely eradicated my sex drive. I was on Reclipsen. I still found my boyfriend insanely attractive, I just couldn't get horny. I did not want sex. At all. I switched to Lutera at the end of December. It has drastically changed my life for the better. I am horny all the time and my boyfriend and I have crazy animal sex.

semper_bibitur · 3 months

I switched to another pill a few months into the relationship. Nothing changed, expect the horrible pains during period and extreme food cravings I got from the first one vanished. My libido is still higher than my SO's, with both pills, and I still love him as much.

gabdeslys · 3 months

My libido's been pretty healthy, but I've had a ladyboner for more baby-faced men, and guys who normally you wouldn't call "hot" but are definitely attractive in a will-rub-your-feet-and-make-you-soup-if-you've-had-a-day kind of way.

edit: typo

[deleted] · 3 months

I can't say for sure. During the times I was on the pill I had a lot of other things going on life that could easily account for changes in sex drive/attraction/weight/whatever. My tendencies in terms of what and who I find attractive have probably changed more with my age.

Now that I'm off the pill (IUD) I am definitely finding more men attractive in general but then again, maybe that's a function of having been with the same guy for years and would have happened anyway.

disposable_me_0001 · 3 months

Last gf had an iud. Most effective method. No homromal side effects afaik.

Tehatimmeh · 3 months

Before the pill, I was only occasionally interested in guys, and didn't really bother trying to make a move. I've been on it for two months now, and every moderately-attractive guy I meet makes me act completely stupid.

[deleted] · 3 months

The one thing I learned from this is that I never want any of my girlfriends to get on the pill.

Pepser · 3 months

Same here for the libido loss, switched, but no results :(. Then stopped completely and back it was :D

Also I found I became very emotionally unstable which is not at all like me. I didn't cry before, when on the pill I cried at every bad movie I saw.

I know how the pill is supposed to be the liberator for us women and all, and I am completely pro - the idea of the pill but in practice for me it's not as good as it sounds. I use other means of birth-control, works well for me.

saraoflaherty · 3 months

Never has, and I've tried a good few brands.

Michellelise · 3 months

I've noticed that every time I go on the pill my sex drive is a lot lower.. I don't have a boyfriend so it's harder to notice but i do still.. The bean just doest't get hyper like it used to (:

madeleineemily · 3 months

I can relate to this in a few different ways, but I'm not sure if it's actually the pill causing these things or if it is because of other factors. When I first started the pill, I became much more promiscuous, but that could also be because I had just become sexually active a few months beforehand. I started a different pill about a year later and I seemed to feel pretty normal. A few months ago, I started a DIFFERENT brand, and my sex drive is completely gone. I still think certain men are attractive, but rarely. This could also be because I recently got out of a serious relationship.

Jackalbits · 3 months

When I was on the pill my sex drive vanished. It also made me want pretty much nothing to do with my boyfriend at the time. It also made me incredibly depressed.

Asmodiar_ · 3 months

Not a girl... but I was dating a girl for about 3 months - we were crazy about eachother... She started taking the pill... and it changed her smell... Like... I loved the way she smelled before - but her natural body oder changed... And I wasn't attracted to her anymore. ended up breaking up a few months later.

ThorneLea · 3 months

This kills the sex-drive.

[deleted] · 3 months

It's been said a lot on here, but the pill has varying effects for everyone. When I took it I had no sex drive whatsoever, but I also think that had a lot to do with the fact that it made me gain over 20 pounds because of hormones. I dropped those 20 pounds in a week once I dropped the pill. Now I am on Implanon and I couldn't be happier. I haven't had my period for over three years and am a perfectly sexual human being! Such a difference.

t0tzANDb0tz · 3 months

I'm getting married in about 6 months and my fiance and I are going through this conversation now. Both our families are Catholic and so natural family planning has been an option presented to us (part of the requirement for getting married at the Catholic Church). Obviously we have concerns about our ability to not make mistakes with NFP but we're also worried about the side effects of her using birth control. She used it in the past and hated the way it affected her. I know this is probably a long shot on reddit but anyone out there have any experience with Natural Family Planning? It seems medically like it will work... as long as you don't have sex when you know your not supposed to. Would love to hear someone's opinion on it. We can't afford to have a kid yet but I don't want my fiance transforming into someone she is not. Her health is number 1 for me and the health of our marriage as well.

carlottavaldez · 3 months

The pill really killed my libido, it also made me gain about eight pounds, so I didn't feel very sexy anyway. My boobs got bigger...but eh...what's the point?

hurricane_drunk · 3 months

I don't think I noticed any change in libido when I started on the pill a year ago. I got on it because I had a high libido and I've still got it. I went up a cup size though ;]

Fox_HoundSFG · 3 months

When your body beings to "think it's pregnant" your hormones will change, and will result in you being attracted to men on the same hormone type. Before you start taking the pill you will be attracted to men of a different hormone type.

[deleted] · 3 months

For me the answer is no. Not one bit. But there are lots of different birth control pills that affect lots of women in different ways.

I'm surprised to see how many women feel a lower sex drive, but my sex drive has increased if anything. Then again, I've always had a desire to have lots of sex lol.

partyhat · 3 months

Nope, I'm still a lesbian.

hazleapricot · 3 months

I had to start taking it at 14 for pain reasons, so I think I was too young to see any difference in anything really.

I'll have to closely analyze when I'm on the sugar pill parts.

jarbamarbie · 3 months

I was on birth control when I met my ex-husband. When I went off of it, I found him somewhat repulsive - though I'm sure that had something to do with his personality, too... but never been on it with my current husband (vasectomy after our daughter was born) and our sex life has stayed incredibly healthy for the last 4 years. I really think that the birth control was masking the hormonal incompatibility with my ex husband.

Catwoman8888 · 3 months

Nope, still have strong sexual desires, still attracted to "manly" men and not attracted to "girly" men.

andiW · 3 months

I have been on and off the pill. I have felt nothing. Never had any emotional changes, no increase/decrease in libido, yada yada yada. Nothing. My horniness is mostly caused by what I am thinking about at the moment aka sexy thoughts. The pill didn't seem to change that.

The only annoying thing about the pill is having to remember to take it every day+pay money for it.

theCircleK · 3 months

Lack of libido but worse, I've tried multiple versions of the pill, and it just makes me an emotional wreck almost incapable of logical thought at every obstacle. It is so weird. When I'm not on it I'm able to rationalize situations, especially in relationships - my crazy is gone. I just wish I could be on some form of it - I'm scared to go the shot/IUD route because of the implications of the long-term hormones on my mental health.

I did meet my current boyfriend prior to my most current try with BC. I'm not using it anymore and I am more attracted to him when I'm not on it - which is probably supposed to mean something..

Oath24 · 3 months

I've been on the pill for only 4 months now, but haven't noticed any changes at all. You seem to be getting a lot of posts saying that things will change drastically, but that's not always the case.

flauwful · 3 months

I've been on the pill for about seven years. I don't know if I can chalk it up to me being a crazy teen just before I started, but now my sex drive is much lower. I still get the daily equivalent of a guy's morning wood but it's been bearable to not fap for almost months at a time. I'm glad I'm not hounding after every college guy I see. I've been dating the same guy for about three years and he still means the world to me, and we're best friend's too.

bunnymonster · 3 months

Um...I don't think I ever had attraction issues (I did date some assholes though I leave that up to I was in High School and that is what one does in High School), but it did have some other consequences...like forced menstrual bleeding for 21 days...in a row.

I looked like walking death. Not fun.

twistedfork · 3 months

Not that I have noticed. I have always been attracted to guys significantly older than me. Before I started the pill, I was 19 my boyfriend was 25; after I started the pill, I was 23 my boyfriend was 32.

Additionally my sex drive seems pretty unaffected.

Thees89 · 3 months

You`ll always get a varied reaction from women when it comes to the pill becouse woman react to "PREGNANCY" diffrently. Remember the pills main ingrediant works by fooling the body into thinking its already pregnant. theres some other stuff in there that trys to control the bodies reaction to this but the "pregnancy" drug is what every varient has.

Some womans HGC rises to certain levels, the boobs get ready for milk making but never get the green light to start amongst other stuff but a womens attraction to there SO as well as certain types of men can switch polls. (its one of the attributing factors to divorce rates in the US). Its not garanteed but theres a good chance it happens and alot of women dont relise. They can start a relationship on the pill. A few years pass and when they start for a kid after marrage and all they see is that they arnt really into their husband anymore for no reason so they start looking at there lives etc and before you know it there a new divorcee.

This can happen for EVERY hormonal birth control. pill, injection or Implant. if your reccommending BC for a girl I`d go for and IUD, its got a 97% over the pills 99.1% but you can put it in forget about it for 5-10 years and check its still there yourself. but if you do get pregnant on it seek medical advice IMMEDIATLY becouse it increases your chances of either a fallopian pregnancy or worse which can really mess up your insides.

FieldOfPoppies · 3 months

I tried the Depo shot for about a year. I finally stopped when my SO pointed out that I had Hulk rage fits and tried to quit my job every three months on exactly the same schedule as the shots. Quit the shots, sanity returned. Hormones are powerful shit.

kika988 · 3 months

I didn't notice any difference in who I was attracted to -- never took BC til after I was with my husband, and it never affected my attraction to him. What it DID do was make me batshit insane. I had always had low self-esteem, but while on the pill it got SO much worse. I was always suspecting him of cheating even though we spent ALL our time together (we even worked at the same place), and I repeatedly tried to leave him so he could find someone 'better'. I guess it kind of affected my sex drive, but only in the sense that I felt so worthless that I couldn't understand why he would WANT to have sex with me.

Finally stopped taking it and I went back to normal -- and was even more secure in our relationship than before, since if he stayed with me through that insanity, there really must not be much I can do to run him off.

We went back to more 'old fashioned' methods of contraception, and... well, our two-month old is awesome and I wouldn't trade him for anything, but I think I'm going to be trying some different forms of the pill to try to find something that works for me ^{.^;;}

beeblesqueebs · 3 months

Used to be on it when I was a teenager. Funny how little doctors care about the general health of children! I can't recall any other side effects. I try and eat foods that are GMO free so I try to stay away from anything that I knowingly put into my stomach/body, especially medications. My SO's mother is a breast cancer survivor who took birth control until she was 50. It may not be the only reason she developed it but it was probably a leading factor. I refuse to take it again, this is also supported by my SO.

missambs · 3 months

I've never noticed anything. I was in a long term relationship before I went on the pill, and remained equally attracted to him after I started taking it.

HireALLTheThings · 3 months

Guy here. It didn't make me seem less attractive to my girlfriend, but she did tell me that it completely murdered her libido. After being on it for 2 years, she couldn't even have an orgasm without a huge amount of stimulation (like, the kind of stimulation that only a vibrator turned up to max can give.)

She recently went off it and her sex drive is slowly coming back. Granted, she only tried one kind, so results may vary.

andithslest · 3 months

I found myself attracted to masculine men when I was off of the pill after long periods of time on it, and more effeminate men when I was on the pill. When I was first put I also liked girls. Mine was a medical reason, I was having my period for three weeks out of the month and became anaemic. My body got with the program though, and decided to start doing the "5 day cycle" thing, so I got off the pill.

I ended up breaking up with my fiancée because I started hating his smell when I got off the pill (met him while on it), which is something that is apparently common when stopping it.

naughtydismutase · 3 months

Attraction hasn't changed at all. I do have increased sex drive though, which is awesome. I guess I escaped one of the worst side effects (for now, at least).

fightbcicantfly · 3 months

No, but it did make my boobs grow which was awesome. It also made me pretty emotional for the first few months, especially when I drank. I got past that, and it cleared up my skin, made my periods regular and in general I'm really happy with my outcomes from the pill. But everyone reacts differently, so best of luck!

kinderwhore · 3 months

my current pill makes me horny as fuck all the time, basically insatiable, also makes me quite emotional when i used to be pretty neutral. Also made my boobs go from an A to a large B, everything went better than expected. :)

epithelia · 3 months

I haven't had any adverse reactions from the pill. High sex drive still intact, still insanely attracted to men... so, all is well.

EllieTuttle · 3 months

I was more affectionate but also more moody and sad, my boyfriend had lots of trouble trying to figure out how to gauge my feelings because suddenly they were different. But I did want to be cuddly more often. Libido went way down though, fixed once I was off the pill. But I still loved my boyfriend the same amount throughout, if that helps at all!

Brina_Bo_Bina · 3 months

I've been on the pill since I was 15 (for non sexual reasons) and I'm 24 now so I have nothing to compare it to before I was on it. But I've always been attracted to the same type of guys sooo ya

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