I'm not really looking for advice; I'm just curious as to what other men would do in this situation. My wife just got a promotion, and her salary doubled from $40,000 to $80,000. She now makes twice as much as I do, and has suggested that if I wanted to, I could quit my job, stay home, take care of the housework, and have time to work out and write. However, if I keep my job, we would gross $120,000 together, and be able to put away a shitload of money.
I'm tempted to keep my job. Earning my own salary allows me to retain a measure of independence. Since I'm paying half of the bills, I don't have to ask permission if I want to indulge myself. At the same time, I never particularly liked working for other people, and I am a lot better at the domestic shit than my wife is, since I had to help my crippled mother with the housework as a younger man. And I would have plenty of time to work out and write.
What would you do in my position?
EDIT: I won't be quitting my job, but I think it's interesting to argue the merits or lack thereof of men staying home and taking care of the domestic shit while women work. Given that the current recession has put more men out of work than women, it's a situation that a lot of people have to face by necessity. I'm lucky enough to have a choice.
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